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Is your “Why” big enough?

April 21st, 2008 at 08:21 am

I was reading Petunia’s blog and it got me thinking why some people fail and some succeed.

My first thought was having a “what” or a vision. You start by dreaming what would by life be if I was debt free. But that isn’t the answer. We all have dreams but not all of us will achieve them.

Maybe it’s the “how”. After all, it wasn’t the “what”. Well, it’s really not hard to get out of debt. You budget less then you make or pick up another job and throw the excess at the debt. Not rocket science and I could even give you a formula. Income – expenses = what’s left for debt reduction.

The leaves us with the “why”. But not any old “why” will do. You see if I said to you your life would be better off if you could save $30,000 this year. Could you? Maybe and then again maybe not. What happens if you need to save $30,000 because your spouse or child needs an operation. Well now, that’s one big “why” and I can tell you I would have $30,000 saved will before operation whether 6 months or a year away.

But with the first scenario, it would be a hit or miss. Yea, it would be nice, but then life happens (nice vacation, eating out, etc.).

My point? A big enough “why” keeps us focused and on point and our dreams can be achieved. For spouses, the “whys” maybe different but should be big enough.

My “why”? For me and my wife to feel more secure and spend more time together as a family. And the first goal is getting out of debt with the second goal to reduce my hours away from the family.

I know the “how” for the first but not the second, because my “whys” got me focused.

And Happy Marathon Monday from Boston!!!!

12 Responses to “Is your “Why” big enough?”

  1. Aleta Says:

    You're right. It is the why that will keeps us focused on accomplishing our goal or goals. You basically have to have tunnel vision. You can't look to the right or the left when you're on your journey.

    I can remember when we were getting out of debt and having to say no to many people and events that we wanted to do. Many people won't understand what you are doing and will try to deter you from what you're doing but you have to put all of that to the side. After all, months, a year, two years, and you're out of debt and those same people are where they were or even farther into debt.

  2. luvinmylife Says:

    Another great post Merch! It really got me to thinking. If the "why" is important enough, you WILL make it happen.

  3. thriftorama Says:

    So true! You have to have a strong motivator to stay on track...

  4. Petunia Says:

    Merch - I've been referenced! I feel like a celebrity, LOL! But so true about the "why" - like that story of the three guys building the church.

  5. pjmama Says:

    I agree about the why for sure. It definitely makes me wonder about mine Smile

  6. Broken Arrow Says:

    Nice musing. Big Grin

  7. Ima saver Says:

    I really started to realize how much I can save when I started on this $20 challenge more than 2 years ago.

  8. Broken Arrow Says:

    By the way, what are you trying to imply when you ask, "Is my 'Why' big enough?" Of course it's big enough, don't make me whip it out. Big Grin

    Besides I hear the Whos don't care about how big the Why is, only that I know the How to do What with it! Stick Out Tongue

  9. Petunia Says:

    Merch - I've been thinking about this, and I might add one more thing to your list. For lack of a better term, I'd call it "Can Do Attitude". (It's opposite would be an entitlement attitude, I think.)

    With the first, you read about something/hear about something/come up with an idea for something and think "Hey, I could do that!"

    With the second, you read about something/hear about something/come up with an idea for something and think, "Why bother? It will never work./ The government/Mom and Dad/My friends and family will take care of that for me./Interesting idea - I think I'll go watch TV now."

    My experiences lead me to believe that most people tend one way or the other on this. I'd guess that most of the bloggers here fall in the first category. Smile

  10. merch Says:

    BA - I would never question the size of your why, just the performance .. oh no he didn't...oh yes I did. :O

    Petunia - my point is even if someone isn't motivated or have a can do attitude, a big enough why would force them into action. But some people do need smaller whys to motivate them.

  11. jIM_Ohio Says:

    If you don't know where you are going you may never get there.

    Yogi Berra

  12. Aleta Says:

    I call those smaller whys BABYSTEPS.

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